Blog – Sida 8 – Xtas – tantrisk transformation

X-mas challenge 7

How to find your boundaries and to keep them or remove them.

If you see your self as a house with a garden, there is always different rules for different people how close you let them. Some people just passing by without even care about you and your house. Some you talk with over the fence, when you get the mail from the mailbox. There are people you invite to garden parties and some you talk with in your kitchen. Some people stay in your guestroom and some can sleep in your bed. Are you sure you have the right people at the right place. There might be people in your bed you want to throw out and vice versa, think if there are people passing by and you don’t even notice them. Look up today and invite a stranger into your life. It could be a smile or for coffee, or more. It’s your choice!

X-mas challenge 6

Today I went to one of the most open churches in Stockholm, allhelgonamässan. A friend of mine have died of cancer this week and friends where singing to her memory. I cried a lot, tears constantly kept pouring…

So tonights challenge is about, how transparent and open do you dare to be among people? Can you cry your eyes out? Ca you laugh laud on the movies or at the wrong places? Can you be your true self in every situation, and do you know who you are?

X-mas challenge 5

How do you know if you have a feminine or masculine core? (If you don’t know what I mean by that, read more about David Deida, Google or Youtube)

There is a quick answer or you can go into long stories… Do you prefer to be fucked or to you prefer to fuck? Are you the one on top or at the bottom? Could be transferred to are you dominant or submissive according to sex?

Think about that before you go to bed tonight…

X-mad challenge 4

How present do you dare to be?

Are you that kind of person that turn off the light before you go to bed with someone? Or are you able to be totally present and look in to your lovers eyes all the time?

For this weekend I challenge you to stay even more present and have your eyes more open. Think about how you could support and serve your partner with your presence. How much more do you dare to share of your self with your lover? Can you stand his or her all emotions, feelings and movements?

Go for it!!!

X-mas challenge 3

Are you happy with your lover or boss?

Many friends of mine complain over their boss, he or she is doing that and not doing this… Sounds familiar?

If it would been a lover you would break up, wouldn’t you? Or at least try to solve the problem.

I once told a friend you have to make a choice, be submissive to your boss or quit.

This is your challenge to day, maybe not to quit, but think about the situation you are in, are you submissive and in true acceptance of the situation? Or do you have an inner complainer keep nagging? Is it time to move on at work or in the relationship?

X-mas challenge 2

Submissive or weak? Codewords rules!

Many people outside the BDSM community often make a similarity between weakness and submissive. We with some insights know for sure this is completely wrong.

As dominant you can’t continue play when your submissive don’t want any more, that would be rape or abuse. As submissive you are always free to use the codeword agreed upon. Is that even possible in daily life? Think if we at the workplace tomorrow would start say Yellow or Red? How would your workplace work if you start to use codewords instead of complaining?

X-mas challenge nr 1

One week ago I got the idea to write in the blog as a calendar…to open one small present each day. Yesterday my computer broke…sign?

My first gift to you is some reflections and questions.

Are you living your life like you want to live it? Do you have enough sex? Do you have sex with the one you want to have sex with? We don’t have to be that explicit, who do you want to meet today and grab a cup of coffee with?

Always when we interact in a more present and tantric way we need to know our self and our needs before we can try and play with someone else. So today try to listen to your self, coffee or tea? Sex or not? With who? Just do it, honor your self!!!

Importance of living in xtasy – life and death!!!

Sorry for not posting so much on the blog…Been busy exploring life and death. This summer I followed my mother that died from cancer. And now I am following a dear friend on the same journey. This kind of process really shows me that I am greatfull beyond words from my BDSM and tantric journey.

Learning to live and explore xtasy and deep feelings and emotions have prepared me for this. Even though you really cant prepare because every deathjourney is unique. What I do to survive in this and even learn from it is really trying to find xtasy and play with energy and God as much as I can. Trying to stay present no matter what…and expressing my gratitude for everyting that is good.

If you are curious about what I do and how I do it, try a session with me. Are you afraid of death are you afraid of life!!!

Turne

I am going on a shorter tour…Malmö and Gothenburg and are available for sessions on the 11 and the 13 of october in Göteborg and one spot left in Malmö on the 11 of oct. Contact me for more info

miniworkshop – Life in xtas!

Saturday I gave a workshop – live life more in xtas! It was just a small miniworkshop as a teaser to my workshop Pain and Pleasure. In the morning I went to the store to buy toys for the workshop, Clothpins and flywhips for everyone. I like more to play with things that are not connected to the BDSM world, to make it more undramatic. When I was supposed to pay – the cashier – ohh so many are they for spanking??? Its apparently that obvious…I didnt really answer…

Well at the center where I work – there was a nice group with curious people – wanting to explore more about this fun topic. We worked with energy, polarity…leading and following and some pain and presence training, and finished up with putting all the men in a circle – supporting each other, while the women danced around giving the a hard time with the whips. Everybody had a good time – so all people out there – play more!!!

Love/Sofia