How do you know if you have a feminine or masculine core? (If you don’t know what I mean by that, read more about David Deida, Google or Youtube)
There is a quick answer or you can go into long stories… Do you prefer to be fucked or to you prefer to fuck? Are you the one on top or at the bottom? Could be transferred to are you dominant or submissive according to sex?
Think about that before you go to bed tonight…
How present do you dare to be?
Are you that kind of person that turn off the light before you go to bed with someone? Or are you able to be totally present and look in to your lovers eyes all the time?
For this weekend I challenge you to stay even more present and have your eyes more open. Think about how you could support and serve your partner with your presence. How much more do you dare to share of your self with your lover? Can you stand his or her all emotions, feelings and movements?
Go for it!!!
Are you happy with your lover or boss?
Many friends of mine complain over their boss, he or she is doing that and not doing this… Sounds familiar?
If it would been a lover you would break up, wouldn’t you? Or at least try to solve the problem.
I once told a friend you have to make a choice, be submissive to your boss or quit.
This is your challenge to day, maybe not to quit, but think about the situation you are in, are you submissive and in true acceptance of the situation? Or do you have an inner complainer keep nagging? Is it time to move on at work or in the relationship?
Submissive or weak? Codewords rules!
Many people outside the BDSM community often make a similarity between weakness and submissive. We with some insights know for sure this is completely wrong.
As dominant you can’t continue play when your submissive don’t want any more, that would be rape or abuse. As submissive you are always free to use the codeword agreed upon. Is that even possible in daily life? Think if we at the workplace tomorrow would start say Yellow or Red? How would your workplace work if you start to use codewords instead of complaining?
One week ago I got the idea to write in the blog as a calendar…to open one small present each day. Yesterday my computer broke…sign?
My first gift to you is some reflections and questions.
Are you living your life like you want to live it? Do you have enough sex? Do you have sex with the one you want to have sex with? We don’t have to be that explicit, who do you want to meet today and grab a cup of coffee with?
Always when we interact in a more present and tantric way we need to know our self and our needs before we can try and play with someone else. So today try to listen to your self, coffee or tea? Sex or not? With who? Just do it, honor your self!!!
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